Self-care is essentially concerned with paying attention to your physical, mental, and emotional health, which involves feeding on a good diet, practicing good hygiene, seeking medical attention, and avoiding sources of anxiety when needed. I remember my mother( of blessed memory) used to say to me that anyone who promises to clothe me must be well clothed first, meaning that before I pay attention to anyone promising to love me forever, I should first see how much love and care he has lavished on himself.
Self-care is not the same as self-love, though they are closely related. Self-love is more particular about being aware of yourself and putting the right worth, value, and respect on yourself because of unconditional acceptance of yourself. While self-care narrows down to taking responsibility for your wellness physically, mentally, and emotionally.
However, if you are a person who does not pay attention to yourself, how do you watch over your spouse and support him or her to live a healthy life?
Self-care is not selfishness; rather, it is a pathway to selflessness.