Month: November 2023

Two cannot work together except they agree neither can you and your spouse form a forcible team that can bring down ten thousand with cognitive-bias.

For you to enjoy effective listening in your marital relationship, you have to intentionally shun whatever anybody has told you ahead what your spouse has to say, give your spouse a benefit of doubt at all time in your communication until he or she is proven wrong.

Listening is more than hearing, as it entails giving the necessary attention that can enhance the understanding of the message passed and boosting the relevance of the feedback given and received

Hearing is not the same as listening. Hearing could be compared to the gathering of wind or noise when it lacks understanding of the message that is being passed, while listening involves paying undivided attention to your spouse as he or she communicates with you so as to pick up the essence of the conversation and give relevant feedback as required.

Communication only takes place when understanding is gained and this can be measured by the relevance of the feedback received.

As much as making eye contact makes communication simple, it has to follow the right body language so as not to create unnecessary tension that defect the purpose of communication.

The tone of voice is equally very important and it does predicts weather communication is simple or ambiguous.

Language use in marital relationship must be free of jargon, technical terms, and be uncomplicated rather it must be simple and clear. Likewise language-use must align with the personality of both the sender and the receiver.

Simplicity is a virtue and not a weakness. When simplicity takes root in the communication of couples, it takes care of perpetual conflict and noise, and it makes feedback relevant as communication becomes noise where feedback is irrelevant