Language use is very important in marital relationship as it can stand as communication barrier if it is not clear and simple. I remember some years ago, an issue of domestic violent came up between a pilot and his wife. The wife asked him to help her zip her blouse, the pilot responded by asking her who has been helping her with her zip since he is not always at home and she said their neighbor who was a bachelor always help out; before long, the woman landed at the nearby pharmacy because she was seriously battered by her husband. In her opinion she only wanted to be hilarious.
Language use in marital relationship must be free of jargon, technical terms, and be uncomplicated rather it must be simple and clear. Likewise language-use must align with the personality of both the sender and the receiver. For instance introvert see life from a more serious side than the extrovert and extrovert are more impatient than the introvert. In all, simplicity should underline every of your communication with your spouse for effectiveness as much as humor is good; knowing your spouse personality and mood can help predict the right time indulge it.