Only a few married people do not have a lofty expectation about marriage when they were single, but the happiest and the most fulfilled among such couples are those who are quick to walk in the reality that is expected in marriage. Unrealistic expectations will constantly breed conflict and disharmony between the intimate partners thereby leading to weak commitment on the part of each of them.
In marital relationships, unrealistic expectations are displayed when you put on your partner or spouse, the demand or responsibility that they do not have the capacity to meet. For instance, it is unrealistic to expect that your spouse will give you babies, make you rich, help you to fulfill your life mission, be there for you at all times or make you happy 100%.
Everyone has weaknesses and limitations, it is important to understand your spouse from the point of his/her limitation and weakness, so as not to build your relationship on unrealistic expectation thereby impending your marital commitment.It is therefore important that you should learn how to lean on God and trust him with your life for, he is the one who is all in all and neither you nor your partner can stand in that class.
List your expectation from your marital relationship and class them as realistic and unrealistic. Exchange the list with your spouse/partner and both of you should make necessary adjustments.