Courtship is a period of time set aside by two matures, opposite members of a society to gather information about one another for the purpose of marriage.
Self-love means having high regard for your own well-being and happiness, when one does not have regard for what matters to his or her happiness, one cannot make others happy.
The journey to becoming an irresistible marital partner starts from the point of having a positive perception of yourself, as your partner cannot value you beyond the value you place upon yourself.