Another magic word that yields interpersonal effectiveness is “thank you.” Just as “excuse me” is used in securing an audience before making a request, “thank you” is used both in securing and in sustaining an audience after a request has been made and after such has been favorably granted. It thereby implies that gratitude strengthens and renews a marital relationship for continued relevance and interdependence.
Saying “thank you” shows that you value the help received, esteem the giver, and have respect for the relationship you share. “Thank you” does not impair your esteem or make you weaker; rather, it reveals your strength and has a positive impact on your self-perception.
When was the last time you said “thank you” to your marital partner for the favor you received from him or her? Make expressing gratitude your custom, as it enhances your relationship with your spouse.